642:4 Memories of “home”

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Flipping through my magic book of 642 things I stumbled across the topic ” What is the place or object from your childhood that you most think about when you think about home.”

Having a very unconventional childhood in a household of drug addicts, drug dealers, police raids, hookers, bikies, bikie moles, tough guys, domestic violence, changing partners of either gender and lots of moving about  I actually find this quite hard to relate to.

I have  a lot of memories and experiences from this colourful upbringing.. most are things that a child should never experience. Seeing my first death from a herion overdose at around 11, being on a first name basis with the police as they apologized for interrupting my homework to search my room during a raid, babysitting 5 year olds as the adults got seriously fracking high.. and just feeling sorry for her and life she’d been born into,  standing between my mother and an abusive partner at 10.. asking him to hit me instead just so I had a reason call the police, acting as the adult which included getting my mother up before school so she’d go to work and knowing  how to mix up smack in a spoon properly by 8… and most strangely, rationalizing all of this and more as normal.

We moved a lot, I remember two houses in the one street, a caravan park,  a caravan on a family member’s property and finally public housing… before moving cities and in with my uncle and his partner into a more stable environment at 15.

One thing I did get the joy of is almost any money, toy or distraction I wanted. I had every Transformer, He-Man figure, Star Wars character, lego set, book, video music and a great collection of teddy bears that a kid of the 80’s could want. I had a  (stolen)TV, stereo & VCR (remember those?!) in my room throughout my whole childhood.. for this my friends were envious! Fair reparation?

In amongst my memories of school, play time, catch’n’kiss, tag, band practice (yes I was a trumpet, trombone & piano playing band geek) are my experiences

When I think of my childhood I don’t think about “home”, I think of these.

I’m not ashamed to admit that (unsurprisingly ) for a long time I was a bit of mess and it took a while to get my head sorted as an adult. Thanks to a fair amount of therapy and many rough patches… other than a lifelong management of depression, which comes and goes, I’m mostly fine now

 

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5 thoughts on “642:4 Memories of “home”

  1. Craig,
    Amazingly open and honest blog post.
    One I can relate to far too much unfortunately.
    I too come from a very f*k up life.
    Abuse as a child. Left in a cardboard box down a side street, beaten up and abandoned many times

    It’s one hell of a start to life but the strong survive and so did we eh? Toys are solice for kids but sadly I never had any as we were too far too neglected for any solice. A lot of care homes and depression but finally life seems achievable. Long live positivity. Well done for describing it all. You are strong and full of life experience.

    Much love xx

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    1. It’s amazing what you learn about people April.

      To come from that and be able to stand tall, sane & succeed in living a normal life… You are amazing.

      Love & hugs x

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    1. It’s a funny thing you know. I didn’t actually intend it to be quite so brutally honest but as happens when you write it just flowed out, fit my intention and felt right so i went with it.

      and yes, i guess you could say it’s a piece that pulls no punches

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